Mom worries that new girlfriend is pulling son away

Dear Abby: I’m a mom of three young adults, a daughter and two sons. The oldest recently married. My youngest is finishing his last two years of college out of state. Three months ago, he met a young lady.

I have tried constantly to be close with all my children, but the youngest has always kept me at bay. He expresses how different we are. Now that he has met this young lady, I think he’s trying to push me further away and continue on with her and her mom. It makes me sad because no matter how hard I try to be a good mother and be present, it doesn’t work. What do you suggest?

Sad Mom in Mississippi

Dear Mom: Your son is pursuing not only this young lady, but also his independence, which is normal for someone his age, and he may need to separate from you for a while. Back off for now.

Dear Abby: I lost my schnauzer to diabetes five months ago. He was my best and, really, only friend. I can’t get over the guilt for having to euthanize him. I hate myself. I have cried every day since because I feel like I let him down. I have never had to go through this before. It was so traumatic I just can’t get over it. Why is this so hard?

Beyond Grief in Utah

Dear Beyond Grief: You have my sympathy. If your dog was suffering and your veterinarian told you the time had come for him to go, you did the right thing. This is so painful because you loved your cherished family member and feel you should have saved him, which, of course, was beyond your power.