Older sister turns a good deed into a tough situation

Dear Abby: My older sister moved in with me after she was placed on furlough because of the pandemic. I was resistant to her moving in because she likes to run the show, she has taken financial advantage of every family member, never admits she’s wrong, and I was worried she’d take over. But I wanted to help her save money, so I said yes.

Now it’s like I’m walking on eggshells. Every time I make a simple request, she accuses me of trying to act like her mother! After six months she asked if I’d prefer she move in with our parents, and I said yes. Now she’s upset, and my parents are begging me to let her stay because they don’t want to deal with her. I just want my peace back. What should I do?

Tired Little Sister

Dear Tired: Do not relent. She asked if you’d prefer she move in with your parents, and you answered her honestly. Set a date for her to be out.

Dear Abby: I’m a very hands-on person, recently retired, and I would like to do volunteer work. Sounds simple, right? Well, it seems no one needs volunteers. I was hoping you might give me some more ideas.

Broke But Available

Dear Broke: You describe yourself as handson with an interest in things that are ecological. Because your efforts are not needed at the organizations you contacted, modify your search. Would you be interested in helping to keep your neighborhood clean and free of trash, starting a vegetable garden to feed the needy, performing yard and gardening chores for elderly members of your community who can no longer do it themselves?

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