Three ‘Fs’ combine to give my life meaning
This Thanksgiving, I am thankful for my three “Fs”— family, friendships and faith, which cover (nearly) everything that brings meaning and purpose to my life.
Family comes first because I had no choice in selecting the kinfolk who brought me into existence. Yet I treasure them because they know me as I am and have no investment in feeding my ego. Many of them love me unconditionally. They stand by me when I fail — and even remember my birthday. They tell me when I need a haircut and pat me on the back when I do something right. Most of all they love me because — and in spite — of myself. And the words of the sage who said, “No man succeeds without a good woman behind him — wife or mother — and if it is both, he is twice blessed” resonate with me.
Friendships come second because my friends enrich my life with ideas, perspectives and practices that inform my own point of view. They recommend books, movies, wines, restaurants, travel destinations, concerts — and even single malts. And we savor delightful times together in our homes, at the theater, watching sporting events and chatting over coffee. These meaningful interactions often enable me to see horizons beyond my own limited perspective.
Finally, faith provides the adhesive that joins us all together. An old hymn put it like this: “Blest be the tie that binds our hearts in Christian love.” The beauty of my faith is a belief in grace, which unlike karma, isn’t all about getting what you deserve. Grace is the love of God bestowed on humankind regardless of merit. Grace enables me to embrace my fellow brothers and sisters regardless of race, age, ethnicity, politics, sexual orientation or religious belief. And grace teaches me that love is the strongest force in the universe. It is truly amazing.
My hope for the coming year is that we not return to the old normal but forge new pathways in our conduct of work, recreation, worship, entertainment and other endeavors.
And I pray that we may never heap contempt on those with whom we disagree, but listen to and respect one another as fellow persons created in the image of God.
Emery J. Cummins, Pacific Beach