Wife expected to always answer calls
Dear Abby: My husband is obsessed with my always being instantly available when he calls or texts my cell phone. At work, I can be busy taking orders, having a conference with my boss or using the restroom. But if I don’t answer, my husband leaves nasty messages. I always respond as soon as I am able. I have explained the reality of what I might be involved with when he contacts me.
Exasperated in Erie
Dear Exasperated: My opinion is you should ignore your husband’s nasty comments because he’s acting like an immature, demanding child who needs to realize the world doesn’t revolve around him.
Dear Abby: My husband has a grandson, “Kyle,” who has been living with us for two years while he earned his bachelor’s degree. He is now going for a master’s, and it will be another two years before he graduates. Kyle works a lot and takes classes, so he is not at our home that much. However, at age 25, it seems to me he should be out on his own. Some of Kyle’s uncles are upset that my husband has allowed this to go on so long, because their kids never got the same treatment. But Kyle doesn’t get the support from his parents that he should, and my husband feels sorry for him. Am I selfish for feeling that my space has been invaded for too long?
Put Upon in Texas
Dear Put Upon: That you and your husband have chosen to be generous with Kyle should be nobody else’s business. For the reason you mentioned, Kyle needed a break. If Kyle were constantly underfoot, I could understand why you might justifiably feel “invaded.” However, because he isn’t, then yes, I do think your attitude is selfish.
Dear Abby: Once again I have found that one random act of kindness begets another. Today, I had a hankering for a salad from my favorite fast-food chain. The drive-up line was long. When I finally was able to turn into the ordering section, I noticed a man in his work truck trying to get into the line. I looked back, and knew none of the cars behind me were going to let him in, so I motioned for him to go ahead. When I reached the window, the cashier said, “You are already paid for.” The man in front of me had paid for my order. The message? Be kind — it’s good karma.
Linda in Orange, CA
Dear Linda: Like a stone thrown into a pond, a good deed can create ripples that extend far beyond the initial splash.
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