Best approach to mask scofflaws? Avoid them

Dear Miss Manners: During this pandemic, it is strongly suggested (and in some areas, required) that we wear masks in public. I have seen many people ignoring this. What is the best way to point out to them that they are endangering not only themselves, but those of us who are unfortunate enough to be near them?

Gentle Reader: They already know. Do you imagine that they have escaped hearing that masks are recommended, if not required?

Miss Manners has long tried to make people understand that scofflaws do not reform when shamed by strangers. Rather, they fight back.

Surely the best way to protect yourself is not to confront such people, but to move quickly away from them.

Dear Miss Manners: One couple I know has been out of work (both partners), and I want to help without being presumptuous. Would it be OK to mail them a card with a check in it? I was thinking of writing words to the effect that the enclosed is a gift, and possibly adding that I could lend more money if that would be helpful in the future.

Gentle Reader: Money, however needed, appreciated and kindly intended, is an uncouth present amongst friends. Offering a meal and some company (when restrictions allow) would be a better way to show friendship — without causing embarrassment that could outlast their presumably temporary situation.

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