Wedding turns into online event
Dear Annie: My son and his fiancee are getting married next month at the courthouse in the city where they live. Due to their feelings about COVID-19 and the travel involved (they live in another state), family is not invited and they will only have their two attendants.
They plan on having another ceremony for family and friends in 2022.
How are other families handling situations like these? I never thought I wouldn’t be invited to my son’s wedding. He is acting like it’s not a big deal, and I’m trying to respect that. But I’m a little hurt. We would’ve traveled there even if it is just at the courthouse.
Do we give them their wedding gift now or wait, or do both? — Sad Mom
Dear Sad Mom: My congratulations on your son’s marriage and my sympathies that you can’t be there in person to see it officiated. Perhaps your son could set up his phone to stream a live video from the courthouse that you and other friends and family members can watch to feel more part of the ceremony. As for the wedding present, it’s entirely up to you to give one now or wait until the friends-and-family ceremony. Both options are equally thoughtful.
As hard as it will be not to be there in person that day, keep in mind that your son doesn’t want you to be there precisely because he cares about you. And he’s wise to be cautious. There are many instances of weddings, even relatively small ones, becoming hotspots for COVID19 transmission. Take the Texas wedding in June at which at least 12 people were infected, including the 76-year-old grandfather of the groom, who ended up in the emergency room with double pneumonia, and the stepmother of the groom, who missed the births of two grandchildren because she was sick and quarantining. Then in August, there was the Maine wedding that resulted in at least 170 cases and eight deaths. While a handful of people at the courthouse would pose less risk than a large reception, it’s still a risk. Plus, small guest lists have a way of multiplying: If they invited you, then they’d have to invite the bride’s parents, too. Then the grandparents and siblings might want to come. And so on.
Dear Annie: As a man nearing 40, my wife and I hit a stretch of low to no intimacy. I was always tired and had little interest. Finally, I got the nerve to visit a hormone specialist and discovered I had low testosterone. Testosterone replacement therapy has saved our marriage and turned the clock back in the bedroom. I feel like I’m in my mid-20s. It has helped tremendously with my overall mood and everyday life. If done correctly by the specialist, there are no ill effects on fertility, so having children will still be possible. — Revitalized
Dear Revitalized: Thanks for the tip. I encourage anyone experiencing low sex drive to talk to their doctors to suss out the underlying issue.
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