A Christmas message for those missing a loved one

Dear Bonnie: This time of the year is so hard. Missing someone in heaven has me in such pain. I do not feel like celebrating Christmas or even putting up a tree. I do not know how others deal with not having someone missing to celebrate with, but I keep crying. Can you offer some advice? — Betty

Dear Betty: As a full-time, medium-giving messenger from your loved ones in heaven, I recognize this time of the year is the hardest for many.

Last week, a woman came in wanting to speak to her mother, who had passed away less than a month ago. As I started to connect with her mom in spirit, her mom brought me through a sad scene, sending me pictures in my mind of her daughter’s bare Christmas tree. As I relayed to her daughter, who was sitting across from me, I saw her well up with tears. She told me she had not been able to decorate the tree. It has been sitting there bare. Then the mom showed me her daughter’s hand placing an ornament on the tree. She told me this was a special ornament in honor of her memory. As I relayed that to her daughter, she replied, “Mom’s so right. My friends came over and put some decorations on the tree just last night because I could not do it, and after they left, I got out a special ornament that says ‘Mom’ and hung that one bulb myself.”

You see, moms and dads on the higher side of life know what you did last night. They know your thoughts, your wishes, and even how you are missing them and what ways you are honoring them.

The mom then brought my hand up to the necklace that I wear, a cross, in honor of my mom. It’s the last thing she wore for jewelry, and she handed it to me. I now wear it every day in honor of her.

As I relayed the message with my hand around my throat placed on the cross, the woman showed me her necklace that her daughters had given her the previous night in memory of her mom, their grandmother.

Messages don’t need to be so evidential that a medium needs to give an address and age, but they need to touch the person’s soul. It’s all about the love we have shared.

As the woman stood up, she said, “I am sorry I was such a crybaby.” My reply was, “When our loved ones come close, it is meant for healing, and releasing tears is a way to do that. So it’s OK to be sad, but then it’s OK to be happy also.”

Here is a little something that came to me in my dream time:

“I know you are missing me.

I know because I miss you, too.

When you think of me this Christmas, I will be thinking of you, too.

I know it won’t be easy.

I see your tears.

I know it won’t be quite the same

As in the other years.

When you think of me this Christmas, You honor all our love.

All the years of joy and fun,

It can never be undone.

Nothing can break our bond or love That we have for each other.

When you think of me this Christmas, Try to remember

The stories of Christmases past.

Do not be afraid to laugh and giggle Of times that went so fast,

’Cause when you are thinking of me, Just know in your heart

I’ll be watching from above

With a heart that is all aglow,

With a love that will never go away. So hang that ornament that is just for me,

And eat that piece of pie,

’Cause I’ll be home for Christmas

There within your heart.

Forever I will be.”

I hope this helps to get you through this Christmas. Light that candle that calls to your loved ones, and know they are watching out for you. Show them you are remembering but enjoying your life, too. Our loved ones want nothing but our hearts to be filled with love and joy while taking them on our journey with us as we go.

Merry Christmas, everyone.

Bonnie Page is a psychic medium and owner of Messages from Heaven and Mystical Magical Marketplace, 48 Central St., Winchendon. If you would like to book a session with Bonnie, call 978-297-9790. If you would like to ask Bonnie a question for publication, send it to www.bonniepagemedium.com.