The more, the merrier holds true for family gathering
DEAR ABBY: We are approaching the time of year when many people struggle with how to divide time between families during the holidays. This is often made harder when there has been divorce and remarriage within a family, especially when children are involved. This was the case in our family.
Planning dinners and celebrations became far easier once I realized that holidays are not just arbitrary dates on a calendar, but a spirit of heart and mind. I let everyone else plan their events, and then choose a day that as many people as possible are available. I host an event on that day -- a week earlier, a week (or month) later -- it doesn’t matter. What does matter is that we gather in love and friendship and have a wonderful time.
As a result, even my former daughters-inlaw readily join in with their new spouses and children and we have a ball! We get to blend together four generations, and our youngest generation is richer for the experience. We joke about having “in-law” and “outlaw”
tables.
I’ll be honest, it took work. The adults had to agree to act like adults, but I’m proud that everyone looks forward to coming to our holiday celebrations whenever they are held. My advice to your readers: Forget the calendar and remember the reason for the gathering! -- FOUND HOLIDAY SPIRIT
DEAR FOUND: I love your attitude, and couldn’t stop smiling after reading your letter. Thank you so much for writing. I hope it will open the minds and hearts of other readers.
Nominations are now being accepted for the Jess Rath Christian Volunteer Service Award.
The Jess Rath Christian Volunteer Service Award is presented annually to Shelby area residents who exemplify the spirit of Christian volunteer service. Service to the community and one’s own church are important considerations. Letters should be submitted to Sharon Stober, 45 Kennedy Dr., Shelby,ohio, 44875 by Monday, January 25.
The annual banquet sponsored by the Shelby Ministerial Association and Shelby Council of Churches will not be held this year but recipients will be honored.