Sister grows selfish during pandemic

Dear Abby: My sister and I are best friends. She has always been caring, empathetic and passionate about helping others. Now, however, COVID has turned her into a real piece of work.

Since the pandemic began, she has become increasingly selfish. She interrupts other people’s conversations to talk about herself and complains nonstop about how COVID has ruined her life, as if the rest of us weren’t experiencing this too.

She shouts hysterically at me when the Wi-Fi stops working and refuses to volunteer for the most basic household tasks. After 10 monster months of this, I’m at my wits’ end.

We live together, go to college together and share the same friends. How can I tolerate her self-centeredness until the pandemic is finally over? And what if this new version of her never goes away?

Irked in Idaho

Dear Irked: If the friends you share with your sister are having the same reaction as you are, a group intervention may jolt her back to reality.

As to the rest of your complaints about her behavior, the next time she comes screaming to you about the Wi-Fi failing, tell her you’ll be glad to help IF she agrees to pull her share of the workload around the apartment.

Dear Abby: My husband and I have two children. We have been married for 14 years, the last six of which have been sexless and loveless. We tried counseling, and I have threatened divorce, but nothing has changed.

After I finally realized that I couldn’t change him, I changed myself. I started stepping out and having sexual relations with other men. He recently found out about my affairs but hasn’t said a word about it to me. I’m to the point that I wish he would confront me and divorce me, but he acts like nothing is wrong in our marriage! I’m confused. What do you recommend I do next?

Looking Ahead in Kansas

Dear Looking Ahead: Do you want a divorce? Is the status quo acceptable to you? If it’s the latter, do nothing different than you have been doing. However, if it isn’t, talk to your husband about what you are thinking.

You need to figure out why the change in your marriage happened and if it can be fixed. If it’s possible to repair your marriage, counseling would be an option. However, if it’s not, it might be healthier for both of you to talk to arrange an amicable divorce.