Poor judgment deserves forgiveness
Dear Abby: I took exception to your response to “Former Friend in Oregon” (July 1), who vaped marijuana while visiting a friend in the presence of the friend’s 12-yearold future stepdaughter. The friend made a mistake, for which she apologized profusely. She had flown crosscountry to visit her pregnant best friend. Flying can cause both anxiety and nausea, and the woman said she uses vaping to relieve both. Further, it was legal in that state.
Pregnancy can cause hormones to be out of whack, and the pregnant friend might have been more reactive than usual. “Former Friend” stated she did not have experience with children. I truly believe she should be forgiven and that one mistake should not end the entire friendship.
This incident could have been a teaching tool for the child, referencing bad judgment, forgiveness, value of friendship, etc. Friendships are vitally important. I could not have navigated what life has thrown at me without the support of close friends. A friend who travels far to visit her bestie should not be discarded over one error in judgment, especially when she so willingly apologized.
Forgiving in North Carolina
Dear Forgiving: That letter drew a huge response from readers, many of whom expressed similar feelings to yours. They pointed out that marijuana is becoming increasingly legal and normal in our society, and it is a topic that should be openly discussed with the 12-year-old. They also felt the girl probably knows more about drugs than the two women do. (She asked her future stepmom, “Was she smoking weed?”) Dear Abby: I was married in a double wedding with my twin brother. My husband and I will celebrate our 25th anniversary in three months. My brother and his wife
divorced 10 years ago. Our three adult children want us to have a big anniversary celebration, as do my husband and I. My brother says that
I’m being selfish and insensitive. Our mother agrees! I think they are the ones being selfish. I feel we deserve this celebration. Your thoughts?
Silver Anniversary in Arizona Dear Silver: You are neither selfish nor insensitive. Celebrate your 25th anniversary in any fashion or at any time you and your family choose. It is regrettable that your twin and mother adopted the attitude they have, but the choice was theirs. Graciously accept their refusal to attend.