Political friction strains friendship
Dear Abby: A friend of 40 years got mad at me after the last presidential election. I told her I didn’t want to talk politics, since we voted for different candidates. She then emailed me saying she thought we should take a break from our long-distance phone calls.
Because it has now been more than a year, I emailed her, texted her and finally left a message on her answering machine asking if she was still mad. I finally called her daughter and was told she was in the hospital recovering from heart surgery. When her daughter told her I was trying to get in touch, I received a text that read, “Not mad. Just don’t want to talk.”
I hate to give up on a long friendship. Her birthday is coming up. Should I send her a birthday card, or respect her wishes and give up?
Old Friend in Florida
Dear Old Friend: By all means, send your friend a birthday card and include in it that you treasure your friendship and wish her a speedy and complication-free recovery. After THAT, the ball is in her court.
Dear Abby: I have been married to a lovely woman for 40 years. I recently found out that five years into our marriage she had an affair with a friend of ours. My wife does not know this friend, having recently found religion, has confessed to me. Should I tell her I know or just go on as though nothing happened?
In The Know in Illinois
Dear In The Know: I cannot guess what justification this “friend” has given for trying to clear his conscience by telling you something that could destroy your marriage. If his confession will erode your relationship with your wife, tell her what you were told so you can talk it through.
Dear Abby: My neighbor’s husband died of COVIDrelated problems. I was never officially informed. About a week later, his clothing, favorite chair and other items were put on the curb in a free pile. While the pile is now gone, my concern is for the people who took the items. I will let you inform the world what might be the better solution.
Panicked in Oregon
Dear Panicked: I am glad to do that. Go to cdc.gov /coronavirus/2019-ncov/faq .html, where you will find a “Frequently Asked Questions” section with information about how the virus is spread.