Help hubby show tenant the door

Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for 40 years.

He owns rental property, and last year a married woman moved into one of his houses.

I understand that her husband lives out of town and is expected to move here once he retires.

A few months ago, she and my husband began an affair.

I don’t believe it was sexual, but it was definitely an emotional affair.

Once he started having dates with her, I told him to leave — it would be her or me.

Their relationship had become too intense with constant texting, telephone calls and latenight visits.

He left, but came back to me shortly after, saying they had a long conversation and that they should “cool” their relationship.

Now, even though they have cooled it, they continue to text, and he goes to the house to “fix” things.

He says she friends and he about her.

I’m having a difficult time trusting them considering the hell they put has no worries me through.

He says friends.

I have no problem with him having a friend, but they have overstepped their relationship big time.

How do I handle this, since he is the landlord? — Left and Bereft

Dear Left: This tenant needs to find another place to live.

I’m going to assume that she won’t be moving, and so — because you and your husband are trying to repair your marriage, he should offer you nothing short of complete transparency regarding ALL of their contact.

He should not be receiving or sending “friendship” texts.

He should show you all communication between them.

And you should also go on any “service calls” with him.

Understand this: That at the end of the day, you are not responsible for your husband’s or anyone else’s lack of friends.

He really does need to make a choice to fully commit to you, and so far, he doesn’t seem to have actually made it. he has

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