Training a fearful dog to be social

Dear Cathy: My dog, Major, is a rescue who is almost two years old. I fell in love with him in his cage huddled against the wall with his head up the wall. He is so sweet and gentle.

I have taken him to dog parks where he is allowed to be with other dogs, and he loves it. He gets so excited when he sees people, but as they approach, his tail goes between his legs, and he will back up and hide behind me or between my legs. Usually, I explain that he is a rescue and if they don’t go to him, he will slowly go to them and warm up. Some children understand this and, of course, some don’t. I have made two trips to Florida from New York with him. We stayed in hotels and my mom’s apartment as well as went to restaurants, the rehab facility, and her house. He did well. He loved Mom immediately and always rested his head on her feet or lap. The walker and oxygen tank didn’t bother him.

The problem is, he shies away from most people. I feel so bad for him, as he is so scared, and I wonder if there is anything else I can do? — Lois, N. Babylon, NY

Dear Lois: It’s always tough having a fearful dog.

Much of a dog’s socialization period happens before he is six months old. Continue providing opportunities for Major to interact with people. Ask people to toss treats toward him, so he learns that being around people means good things for him.

You also can help Major relax by asking him to sit and stay when around people. Another thing you can try is standing or positioning yourself between him and other people. That body language lets him know he doesn’t have to be on alert for you and that you will handle anyone approaching.

Remember, just like people, some dogs may not like certain people — or certain young children. If he is comfortable with seniors, it’s OK for them to be in his circle of friends.