Woman’s partner hates her children

Dear Amy: I’m 51 years old, and have been in a relationship for over three years with a man who hates my grown daughter and her 10-year-old son (my grandson).

My daughter was 16 when she had my grandson. I was a single mom, and the two of them lived with me for a few years. She eventually got into low-income housing.

I pay for her car insurance and phone bill.

This is why my boyfriend says he hates her. He says this takes away from us.

I own my own house, my car is paid for and I pay my bills. I also have savings.

He has moved out three times in the last year, and says it is because of her.

He’s mean to my grandson. He can’t even look at my daughter.

They don’t know the whole truth, but I’m sure they feel his tension. He brings this up every day.

I love him, but I feel it’s none of his business what I do for my kids.

He has three kids and only has a relationship with one of his kids — the others won’t speak to him. Do I need to get him out of my life? — Put-Upon

Dear Put-Upon: I take it as a given that every story has two sides. Maybe you enable your daughter in ways you haven’t described. Maybe your daughter and grandson are openly disrespectful toward your boyfriend.

However, none of this matters, really, because judging from the tone and content of your question; you don’t actually love this guy.

And frankly, from your description, he sounds quite unlovable: He doesn’t pull his own weight. He bullies you. He is an enemy to your close and meaningful family relationships. And he keeps leaving you.

Keep your grandson.

Give this guy the boot. daughter and