Writer urges civility on social media

Dear Amy: Like many people, I have strong opinions about the state of politics in the U.S. But, I’m increasingly concerned about the venom with which people state their opinions.

It doesn’t seem to be enough to explain their position and try to persuade others. Instead, they use hatred and sarcasm.

Amy, I have friends and relatives on Facebook that post incredibly hateful memes and accusations. I wonder why they do it. Is it really helpful?

Yes, I am aware that I can unfollow, unfriend, block, etc., and I frequently do, but the reason I’m there is to keep in touch and see what is happening in their lives.

I wish we could use social media for that, not for spewing hateful political messages.

My hope is that we could have a group discussion about this issue, and make an effort to get people to tone down their language a bit.

Could we start a movement?

Is there anyone out there who would agree with me? — Desperate about Discourse

Dear Desperate: I completely agree with your concern regarding public (and private) discourse. I’ve been tagged on social media for being “too nice,” or trying to push a culture of politeness, at a time where rage is thought to be more appropriate and proportional.

On my own Facebook page and Twitter feed, I encourage civil discourse, and these limited spaces seem to be mainly free from foul language or hate (so far). The community seems to self-police, with some encouragement from me.

I don’t know how to start a movement, but I do know how to use my own voice. I suggest you do, too. Push back, respectfully. Challenge people to find ways to express their ideas and points of view without using hate-charged language.