New girlfriend wants to X ex’s texts Drained hydrocele is refilling itself

Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I have been together for three months. We regularly talk about our future together, but there is one thing getting in the way.

His ex, whom he broke up with nearly eight months ago, continues to text him.

At first it was simply texts arranging for when she would send him payments of money she owed him.

Lately, messages come in saying things like, “I can’t wait to be with you again, baby.”

He has been with me about thing.

He never answers her texts unless it is about money.

I want so badly to text her myself and tell her to leave him alone, except I know that might mean he would no longer get his money.

He says he will block on all platforms when has repaid him.

I worry that she may never pay him back to always have a reason to talk to him. — The New Girlfriend

Dear Girlfriend: Your boyfriend is doing the right thing by being transparent. The downside is that you have taken on this drama.

You should not contact her. First of all, this is not your business. You do not own this man.

It does seem to me, however, that an “I can’t wait to be with you again, baby” message should be met with a one-time “We have broken up. It’s time for you to move on” message (from him).

If he is even passively stringing her along until she repays him, then he is being almost as manipulative as she is.

You don’t mention what amount of money is still owed, but your boyfriend should let his ex continue to pay her debt, and then he should consider stopping all contact — when she still has a minimal amount left to pay. Forgiving that last payment might be in everyone’s best interest. very open the whole her she

Dear Dr. Roach: I had to have removal of fluid that had collected around my testicles. Nearly half a liter was removed. Five days later, fluid started to build up again. . What is happening?— R.H.

It sounds like you have a large hydrocele, a collection of fluid around the testicle. Normally these are small, but in some men they can be large.

These are treated by urologists. A drainage procedure is often complicated by recurrence. The standard surgical approach is to surgically remove the entire sac.

An evaluation for testicular cancer is indicated. Ultrasound is usually the appropriate test.

You need to get back to your urologist.

Dear Dr. Roach: I am a 66-year-old male. I had my mitral valve replaced. I had an episode of atrial fibrillation. I continued the drug for three years.

I went into A-fib again and got electrical cardioversion. It returned a month later. I went back on 200 mg of amiodarone a day, and have been fine for over a year. I was put on warfarin and then Eliquis to prevent clots.

I asked my doctor why I need blood thinners if my heart is in sinus rhythm, and she said it is because I could have A-fib episodes. Aside from cost, my main complaint is this: I also have back and knee problems. — M.H.

Atrial fibrillation is an abnormal heart rhythm that raises the risk of blood clot and stroke. Most people with atrial fibrillation need treatment.

If your doctor were 100% sure you haven’t gone back into atrial fibrillation in the past year, then it would be appropriate to stop. That risk is increased with chronic use of an NSAID. However, you have been in A-fib three times now, and many cardiologists feel the risk of stroke if you go back into A-fib is greater.

She could decide to use a heart monitor to examine your heart rhythm.