‘Larry David type’ curbs enthusiasm

Dear Amy: I happily married years.

My wife and I are on the same page on most things — except for one big one: She wants to establish roots and stay in one place for her entire life so that her kids have a place to come home to from college, and a place for our kids to bring our grandchildren (when they have them).

I want out of our bubble of a California beach town. Our friends are mostly my wife’s friends, because I have a Larry David kind of brain and oftentimes things come out of my mouth that tend to rub people the wrong way.

Both of our kids will be attending college in Georgia. In my mind, that creates a perfect opportunity for us to start a little adventure and move there for a few years.

My wife disagrees. She has her mother to take care of, but Amy, her mother could live for another five to eight years.

I feel like I am stuck in a bubble-prison. The things that I would have liked to do in my life seem to be slipping away.

Is that just life? Do I have to give up on my dreams because they don’t intersect with my wife’s? — Georgia on My Mind

Dear Georgia: Your selfidentification as a “Larry David” type makes me want to applaud your honesty and give your wife a medal.

I’ll be your (unofficial) adjudicator: Your wife’s desire/ need to take care of her mother is more important than your desire/need to pull her away.

You and your wife both seem to have unrealistic expectations for your future.

This plan of hers might be well over a decade off, or not happen at all.

You could decamp for a few weeks to Georgia, rent a place, and see if your wife can join you for a week or two while you are there. have been for over 20