Future husband sings a ‘me’ tune

Dear Amy: My soon-to-be wife is now hesitant to marry me because I want to live elsewhere during the winter.

I’m a 30-year-old business owner and my company doesn’t really do work from Christmas to March. My fiancee and I have talked about how I will go on a three-week mountain trip in Belize, followed by a fourweek hiatus trip to Costa Rica.

We have decided not to have children, so we can travel and live a fun and stress-free life. I have discussed buying a house in Belize this winter, for my future winter hideaway.

Last night, her tone changed. She says I’m not allowed to go away longer than one month all winter.

She has her own cleaning company so she can’t leave her clients for more than a week.

So here I am, 30 years old, on the cusp of marriage, with ambitions to retire before 40, letting her live rentand expense-free in my house that I paid for.

And now she says I can’t enjoy my winter months in a sun-filled oasis?

I would have arranged to pay for all expenses/mortgage/plowing/wood stacked in basement, etc., but she’s still mad.

So now I have to put my life on hold, or should I go and live my life? — SouthBound

Dear South-Bound: Here are my thoughts: You are approaching marriage singing the “Me” song: “Me, me, me, me, me”

Your thoughts of the future are all about you. You and your plans, your possessions, your property, and your sun- and fun-filled winters.

Your future wife does not get to tell you what you are “allowed” to do.

But marriage is all compromise, and you seem capable of that. about don’t