College student seeks occupation

Dear Amy: My 19-year-old daughter’s freshman year of college ended with several weeks of online classes.

The online format was difficult for her, and she did poorly.

During quarantine she has become depressed and anxious about the coronavirus and the social and political upheaval our country is undergoing.

After discussion we’ve agreed that her starting her sophomore year online will not be a wise choice for her and she is going to take the semester, and possibly the year, off from college.

The question is: What now? The job market is tight.

She feels adrift. She is in therapy, which is helpful. I want to help guide her. Your suggestions? — Worried Mom

Dear Worried: I think your daughter should explore taking classes at your local community college. This would also enable her to continue to identify as being a student, and would keep her on track, academically. Taking at least one class would also provide an important structure to her days.

The worst thing would be for her to have too much unstructured time. This is when her anxiety would roam her brain’s hallways. She should spend as much time as possible outdoors. Regular exercise will help. Make sure she makes dinner for the family at least two times a week.

She should also look for a part-time job or volunteer position. Granted these opportunities might be few and far between, but exploring options and spitballing creative ideas will be good for her.

Make sure she limits her exposure to news/media/information/misinformation that triggers her anxiety. The world will continue to spin on its axis if she spends one week with no media and only rereading Jane Austen and watching filmed adaptations. Also, podcasts.