Widow seeks dating, online advice
Dear Amy: I am a widow. I am currently seeing a man who gets up early to go online. He is always complimenting women online, even telling them that he loves them.
He and I dated before, and I walked away because of his online activities.
He got back in touch, saying that he missed me. He asked if we could try again. During the time we were broken up, he went on a couple of dates with another woman. He promised that she would be gone! Nope.
I am not on his Facebook account, and his page still says that he is single, even though he tells me that we are in a relationship.
I have told him I will not be second to a computer and a bunch of single women.
Should I walk away? I have told him that I do not think it is right to keep old baggage hanging around because it doesn’t give us a chance to move forward.
I have had a lot of other men interested in taking me out, but I have turned them down.
Please help. I’m thinking of just being alone! — Worried Widow
Dear Worried: You say you don’t think it is right to keep old baggage around.
Has it occurred to you that in this scenario, you might be the baggage that he is keeping around?
You had a marriage, followed by a huge loss. Surely during your marriage, you learned that you are important. You should be the most important person in your world, certainly much more important than a guy who can yank you back into his orbit.
Please don’t “move forward as a couple” with this dude. He is showing you exactly who he is. You need to believe him.
You don’t want to play games, so stop playing this one. If you walk away from this person, you will (without question) be the winner.