Allergies bring on rash of restrictions

Dear Amy: I am wrestling with several food allergies. Lab bloodwork has just revealed an autoimmune disorder. I am scheduled to see a rheumatologist in two months.

My body is thrown into a cycle for weeks after consuming foods that trigger allergies.

So, what should I do when I get together with friends or family and they try to make special food for me? I don’t want to risk even trying.

They don’t understand how I have to pay for eating a trace for the next three weeks, but they feel bad.

What I prefer to do is bring my own food, but of course people are either very offended or feel sorry.

What can I say to people who insist I try their food? — Sick and Tired

Dear Sick and Tired: You need only know this: You are responsible for your health. Don’t leave something so important to someone else.

Your question is full of anticipation and speculation regarding how others will respond. Don’t concentrate so much on how others might pressure you, and keep your focus on your own health.

You must bring your own food to gatherings involving food, because you can only safely eat something that you have prepared. Communicate with the host beforehand: “I am on a restricted diet because of my allergies, so I need to bring my own food. Will that bother you? I really don’t want to impose or make a big deal about it.”

If you feel pressured, respond, “I know this is a bummer and I appreciate your efforts, but I have to be very strict about this.”

If your friends and family don’t or won’t adjust to your needs, then yes, you will have to avoid situations where you can’t safely resist this pressure.