Baby’s mama worries she won’t find Mr. Right

Dear Amy: I am a 35-yearold woman. I had my first child with my boyfriend eight months ago.

We were not planning on having a child together, but he has done an amazing job.

He does not want to get married or have any more kids.

I feel conflicted about trying to make the relationship work to keep my family together, but I also want to find someone who wants what I want.

Given my age, I feel like if I don’t have another child now, it will be too late.

But also, dating is the worst, and I am not sure I would meet anyone, anyway.

Do I accept that my son will be my only child and I will never get married, or should I risk breaking up my family? — Ms. Confused

Dear Confused: This is not the end of your story — your story is just beginning!

You seem to be agitated regarding your future. Perhaps it is because a doctor slapped a “geriatric” label on you at the age of 35. This is a disservice to you, because it seems to have made you panic.

Because your baby’s father doesn’t want to get married or have more children (and you want both), perhaps you and he should mindfully transition into an amicable co-parenting arrangement and you should consider yourself available.

You should also assume that you will NOT meet the perfect person. However, you could choose to have another child on your own.

What you don’t want to do is convey to your child that your family is incomplete until Mr. Wonderful comes along.

There are many ways to have more children.

My point is that you can lay out your plans, but the world might have other ideas.