‘Friend’ on a break with a vengeance

Dear Amy: My roommate and friend, “Rand,” recently decided to take a break from his girlfriend of three years. He has been seeing other people and has had casual sex with a few different women in the short time since his breakup.

He asked me if I or my girlfriend had any friends who we could set him up with, and my girlfriend jumped at the idea to set him up with her friend.

The four of us went out for drinks and the pair hit it off. He does not want this to be anything more than a short fling; he sees himself getting back together with his longtime girlfriend. However, he did make it clear he wants to see her often before he goes.

Although she understood he was just on a break with his girlfriend, she believes there may be a deeper connection. She does not know that he will continue to see other girls.

My girlfriend and I feel responsible for this because we set them up. We are thinking of telling her, but are not sure what to say. We would like to preserve our friendship with her. What should we do? — Worried Pal

Dear Worried: Let your girlfriend handle this. At the very least, your girlfriend must convey to her friend that “Rand” played the field with impunity just before they met, and — if his pattern holds true — he will continue to be sexually active with various women now. Condoms, people!

Whatever love delusions she may harbor, however, are her business.

Presumably this friend knows that Randy Rand is moving soon. If she wants to hear some hangover lies, she can ask Rand directly.

Surely Rand realizes that because you and he room together, you have an awareness of his behavior. But you are not responsible for his behavior (or its consequences). He is.