Snub should be taken personally

Dear Amy: I met “Jane” and “Louis” two years ago. Jane and I work together and quickly became good friends.

Jane and Louis introduced me to my boyfriend, “Charlie,” who I’ve been dating now for over a year. They have been friends with Charlie for several years.

Jane and Louis got engaged earlier this year.

Charlie received an invitation to the wedding. However, the invite didn’t include a “plus one.”

When Charlie asked them about this, they said, “Sorry, no girlfriends are allowed, only married couples.”

One, I was shocked and hurt that I’ve been reduced to only being Charlie’s girlfriend, when I thought I was also good friends with this couple.

Two, I’ve never heard of this rule. I understand not wanting to pay for random dates at your wedding, but my boyfriend and I are in a serious relationship. We’ve attended other weddings together.

Charlie still plans to attend this wedding.

Should I just assume it’s a budget issue and let it go? Or do I have a right to be upset? — Sidelined Friend

Dear Sidelined: My standard position is to advise people not to take things personally.

However, this does seem personal, and quite awkward.

You know this couple well. They thought enough of you to introduce you to your guy.

True, wedding receptions are very expensive. Many marrying couples follow a guideline to only invite couples to their wedding if the couple is married, engaged or living together, but this guideline is often stretched to include committed couples, and/or “plusones.”

You are wise to take the high road. I hope their wedding and marriage goes well. Your marriage to your work wife might be in trouble, however.