Struggle with COVID restrictions

Dear Amy: In February, my husband and I had COVID-19.

Our daughter lives two hours away with our only grandchildren, and her husband, “Eric.”

Eric is very “me” oriented; he’ll wear you down in a discussion so he can win. He yells and screams a lot.

We’re in a state that has a mandatory shelter-in-place. I’ve talked to my daughter about a possible visit

Two days ago, my SIL broke our state’s guidelines and went kayaking with two of his friends.

What happens now? Do we refuse all visits?

The very last thing we need is to get this monster virus again - we’re in our 70s. Otherwise our health is good, but neither my husband nor I have fully recovered.

We no longer trust our SIL to help protect us, and he’s possibly exposed his wife and kids.

My daughter refuses to see his behavior as alarming.

What to do? — Recovering in the Pacific NW

Dear Recovering: You should not have any in-person contact with these family members (or others) until you have fully recovered, and medical personnel have declared you free of this virus. Yes, you could possibly become re-infected by outside contact.

You could also continue to expose others.

Your son-in-law should not have violated your state’s guidelines, you and your husband are both the source and the object of more concern because of your health.

Yes, you will all have to wait longer to see one another.

In terms of your son-inlaw’s behavior toward his family, I hope you will stay in very close touch with your daughter. Don’t attack him. Always convey that you are in her corner. If your son-in-law is as much of a hothead as it sounds, she will need your support.