Grandparents risk to see grandson

Dear Amy: My wife and I have been self-isolating. We both really miss our 3-year-old grandson.

I am 71 and in relatively good health, although I do have a couple of “underlying conditions,” that put me in a higher risk group, so I am holding firm about keeping my distance.

My wife is 64 and believes that she is not at high risk and “has never been sick.” She wants to resume babysitting.

Unfortunately, this has become a contentious issue between us.

I have suggested to her that I would not want her poor judgment to risk my well-being, and offered as an alternative for her to stay with my daughter’s family so she could spend time with our grandson without compromising my safety.

So far, she has declined this alternative.

I would appreciate your thoughts. — Perplexed

Dear Perplexed: Your “never-been-sick” wife could be an asymptomatic carrier of COVID-19 (so could you), and if so, her desire to be with your grandson could expose the little guy and his family.

You should both be tested before you end your exile, and should only venture back out into the world on the go-ahead from your doctor. Your family should also be tested.

We are all lonely. We all want this to end. But each household should adjust their standards and behavior to the needs and risks of their most vulnerable family member.

Your wife has legitimate needs, too, and if her depression seems not to be lifting, or is worsening, please reach out to your family doctor for a referral to a therapist.

Support groups also offer free, nonjudgmental support and guidance during this challenging time. Social media is the most wide-reaching way to connect. Search “coronavirus support groups” on Facebook.