Mask request brings on ridiculous reactions

Dear Amy: I work in an office where many people work remotely but are in the office a day or two a week.

We all have individual offices but often chat briefly individually and in-person.

A co-worker recently said she was “uncomfortable” about the amount of traveling I do on my days off and requested I always wear a mask around her.

I acknowledged her concern by saying that I would.

I have decided to no longer engage in personal conversations at work.

What I do away from work is really no one else’s business. I am a very safe traveler and practice good hygiene and have not been sick.

This co-worker smokes and drinks to excess on her days off, but I have never judged her or spoken to her about her chances of contracting cancer from her habits.

Do you have any words of wisdom? — Don’t Judge Me

Dear Don’t Judge Me: If you don’t want to be harshly judged, then don’t be reactive and judgmental, yourself.

Your co-worker’s smoking and drinking habits when she is at home have no bearing on your health - and you know it.

Your traveling could have a bearing on hers - and others’ and you know that, too.

My advice is to comply with guidelines.

My advice to people wrestling with how to behave toward others who are at risk, nervous, anxious — or outright neurotic about contracting COVID — is that the people who are physically and mentally healthier should adjust their behavior .

Your co-worker’s mask request was reasonable. Your defensive response was ridiculous, as was hers!