Choice to post video upsets couple

Dear Amy: My husband and I were married last month.

This was a very small wedding with only 25 people. We had been waiting for this day for over 10 years!

I am upset one of my sistersin-law took it upon herself to not only record the entire ceremony, but she posted the whole ceremony on Facebook.

She knows we have been off of FB for years. We don’t like to share our business.

By the time I was notified, our video had over 800 views.

I told her to please take it down from Facebook.

She has not had any interaction with me at all since then.

My other sister-in-law wants the passcode from my photographer to our wedding pictures.

I told her we have not even printed our album yet.

I told her I would be happy to have her over to view them during a visit.

Am I wrong? — Private Newlyweds in PA

Dear Private: It should be considered common knowledge that no person should post a photo or video of a friend or family member on social media without the subject’s permission.

No guest should post any photos of the bridal party until the reception is over, and no guest should ever post any video without permission.

Some couples ask guests to “check” (surrender) their phones for a completely “unplugged” experience.

Your sister-in-law crossed a boundary. You did the right thing, by asking to remove it.

You are also absolutely justified in denying your other sister-in-law the passcode to your photographer’s professional pictures. These are photos that you paid for. They belong to you and your husband, and you should only share them when you’re ready.