Woman warned tops woman scorned

Dear Amy: I was with my former partner for several years. He traveled for work.

We bought a home together when I was close to completing my master’s degree.

A week after moving in, I discovered he’d been essentially living a double life with another woman (with children). They were planning to take a “family trip” together. She knew nothing of me.

I then learned that his affairs had been going on for years with various women, and that he’d also had trysts with strangers (men and women). In addition to all this, he possessed tons of “upskirt” photos of young women. I immediately left him.

I ran a background check, and discovered that years ago, he was charged of molesting a minor “younger than 12.”

Should I reach out to the women, and prompt them to look him up?

I have been wrestling with this for a year. I don’t want to behave as a woman scorned, but I do think about what harm he could be capable of. — Only In Bad Movies

Dear Bad Movies: I wouldn’t describe your situation as “a woman scorned” so much as “a woman not warned.” The minute you learned about your guy’s double life, you left the relationship. Good for you!

If your sole motive is to spare another woman what you went through or protect her children, then warn her.

You must not defame him. Report only about what happened to you and the facts you know and urge any woman who has questions to also do a background check.

Your ex will probably portray you as “a woman scorned.” It is likely that he is gaslighting his current partners the way he did you, but your strength now is in not caring what he thinks of you.