Hubby should revise technique

Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for eight years. We have three kids.

We’ve always had an amazing sex life.

We also have the usual stress that comes along with raising kids.

My issue is I’m tired of the sleaze that has always been a part of his way of trying to get me “in the mood.”

I’ve never turned him away, and our sex drives are equal.

I’m not sure if it’s because I’m getting older, but when he starts with the sexual innuendos, getting handsy, grabbing my body — it makes me feel like a piece of meat.

What’s wrong with me?! By the time I’m done dealing with my little ones and then my husband acting like a teen, I want to shut down.

I want him to be more respectful in his approach. What should I do? — Pawed Dear Pawed: There is nothing wrong with you.

Your husband plays out a particular script when he wants to initiate sex. He will continue to, because he has no idea of how it makes you feel.

So what do you think your loving husband would prefer: to unwittingly disgust you with breast-grabbing in the name of foreplay and have you grow so turned off that your built-up resentment deepens — or to talk about it?

Sex is all about communication, and right now you two are on vastly different pages. You have as much a right to express your desires!

It’s natural to switch things up as the circumstances of your life change. Sit down and talk to him, before you erupt in the moment and react in a way that would genuinely embarrass him.

Help to write a new script. Think about what you WOULD like in terms of foreplay, and lead with that.

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