Wife’s risky behavior escalates

Dear Amy: I’m a 31-year-old husband with a beautiful wife and two amazing little girls.

My wife and I have been married for six years.

Two years ago, my wife reached out to an old flame and engaged in an emotional affair. She continued to talk with him even while we were going to marriage counseling. After she stopped that relationship, a few months went by quite nicely.

Then she started an emotional affair (through Snapchat) with a co-worker. She said it would stop.

The day before Mother’s Day, she told me the only thing she wanted was a day of not having to be a mother.

I loaded up the girls and we spent the day together.

I didn’t hear from her all day and she didn’t come home.

The following day, she met me at my mom’s house and apologized. She confessed to sleeping with a total stranger. I don’t know what to do.

She has hurt me many times. When do you draw the line? — Heartbroken Husband

Dear Heartbroken: Your wife’s risk-taking behavior seems to be escalating.

Is she trying to force the issue in order to end the marriage, or is she trying to come clean in order to save the marriage?

You two should head right back into counseling.

You should set your own goal for what you want from therapy: Do you want to continue to try to repair your relationship, or do you want to move toward parting ways?

You should contact an attorney to explore your legal rights and responsibilities regarding a possible separation.

It sounds as if your wife is overwhelmed by marriage and parenthood.

You must put your kids’ well-being first.