Vanishing act ends relationship
I was “ghosted” by a woman I had been in a long-distance relationship with. It lasted four years until one day she just never responded again.
We are both parents, both 30, so it’s hard for me to understand how someone could do this to a person you’ve had a history with and claim to love. I’m finding it hard to move past this, because I have no idea what happened.
I feel blindsided. Could she have been hurt or died? I have no one to contact and no way to know. How does one go about moving past this, since it wasn’t a typical breakup? — Can’t Go Forward
What the person did was cowardly, but I’m sorry to say it isn’t that unusual these days. What is unusual is that during the four years you were in a relationship, you never met any of her friends or family, and have no idea how to contact her. Are you absolutely sure she is who she claimed to be? HOROSCOPE
(March 21-April 19). Your love is not blind as love tends to be. You even may worry that it’s a little too filled with visions today. You see close and intimately, and you see a distant future, too.
(April 20-May 20). Having your work cut out for you is actually a good thing — much better than having your work uncut and trying to figure out what you’re supposed to do.
(May 21-June 21). You value family. You value family to such an extent that you feel the impetus to raise and teach relatives who aren’t your children. Today is perfect for taking care of parents or another extension of your clan.
(June 22-July 22). How in the world will you get ahead? List it. Think about it. Fantasize about it. Flesh it out in your mind. And then just know that in the pursuit of an ambition, many sacrifices will happen.
(July 23-Aug. 22). You won’t mind working long, though it’s a little better if the work is not so difficult. Furthermore, who depends on you? Who is waiting for you at the other end? These things will make a difference.
(Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Even though you’ve a full schedule, you’re on the quest for delight and amusement. Friendships are your wealth. When you really like someone, you’ll celebrate every one of their small victories and accomplishments.
(Sept. 23-Oct. 23). When you live in a world where every computer and phone has a camera and you never know what it’s capturing, is there any privacy, really? Probably not, so it’s particularly
For someone to do what she did was childish. It was also brutal, and you may need counseling to help you get over it and learn to trust again.
I love to cook for my family. My granddaughter has now become a vegan. It has taken away my enjoyment for the fun meals we used to have. I can no longer cook for her, and it has changed the family dynamics. How can I cope with this without being angry? — Sad Down South
Allow me to offer two suggestions. Either have your granddaughter bring food with her that she can eat, or widen your repertoire by learning to prepare one vegan dish the entire family can enjoy along with her.
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(Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You will influence others without thinking, persuade them without talking and comfort them without putting yourself out in the least. This is the magic of your cosmic gift.
(Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Here’s what it will take to get clarity on the situation. First, you’ll have to disassociate yourself from your current point of view: Pretend you’re not you, and try out a detached, emotionless vantage. Next, you’ll see.
(Dec. 22-Jan. 19). When loved ones shut you down, it’s something to pay attention to, especially the how and why of it. The one who tries to keep you from your happiness is also threatened by your power.
(Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Every little thing you do is magic! At least the rest of the world sees it this way, though your tendency to be hard on yourself obscures your own vision.
(Feb. 19-March 20). Some say a life without reflection is a waste. Others claim being too conscious of oneself messes up what would otherwise be beautiful living. Split the difference. Think, but don’t over-think.
(Oct. 20). Your love will be celebrated this year as you give yourself in new ways, and all the good heart energy comes back around to hug you. Lucky numbers: 4, 7, 10, 44 , 32. 8 12 13 14 16 17 18 19 20 22 24 25 26 28 31 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 Yacht feature Marquis or earl Hole up Unfinished room Yeah, right! (2 wds.) Speckled horse Freshen a pillow Large gathering pH clue (2 wds.) Fauna — -majeste It has its point Parroted Team supporter Cubicle fillers Spring Hunch Mouthy Martha — Charred Exigency Coffee dispensers Abel or Ducommun Twig-and-mud homes Student stat Legend Marsupial pocket Oprah’s middle name 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 Chatter “Rumba King” Xavier “The Banana Boat Song” (hyph.) Position Become acclimated Singer Celine — Sooner city Kernel Funny money Back when DOWN 1 He jilted Medea 2 Excuse 3 Lib. section 4 Electrify 5 Brawls 6 Comic Sandler 7 Pull-down item 8 Charted 9 Book of maps 10 Confounds 11 Measure speed 12 Wee one’s wail 15 EMT technique 20 Statutes 21 Zonked out 23 Invents 10-20-16 26 Falcon’s home 27 Window part 29 Aid and — 30 Beatty and Buntline Germ killer Tombstone deputy Rabbi’s place Temporary slowdown Sweater style (hyph.) Blues street in Memphis 31 32 33 34 35 37 41 43 44 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 58 Ancient ointment Jousted Island attire Tuned in Marshy area Inspecting Math figure Raced Biol. or astron. Cell habitants Bookie’s figures Water holder Jellyfish abode