Mom wants the right day care
I am a new mom to a sweet baby boy. I am (or was) very career-oriented and never in a million years thought I would want to be a stayat-home mom. I will have to return to work shortly, and I’m really struggling.
I have a hard time putting my little one in day care, but I don’t have a choice. I have no idea where to begin, how to select the right day care or what questions to ask. Any assistance would be greatly appreciated. — New Mom in California
Start by talking to your friends and family, asking if they know of a day care that’s good, then make sure that any facility you’re considering is licensed. Spend a little time there to see how the caregivers interact with the children.
Go to babycenter.com and search on “daycare.” You will find a section on day care centers that will give you the information you need. You should also check HOROSCOPE
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