Wife wants out of sexless union

Dear Abby: I have been married for three years. We are both retired. Five months after the wedding, my husband let me know that he wasn’t interested in having sex anymore. He’s overweight, not in the best of health, and won’t change his diet or exercise.

Other than the lack of affection, he isn’t a bad person and he pays all the bills. I did state clearly to him before we were married what I was looking for in a husband, and he agreed to everything.

I have been thinking about an exit plan. He refuses to consider any type of counseling. Any suggestions on how to save this marriage? — The Exit Plan Dear Exit: You made clear to your husband that sex in a marriage was important to you. You say he “agreed to everything.” Because that was not the truth and you were misled, consult an attorney to find out if the marriage can be annulled.

Dear Abby: My husband and I have been married for 10 years. We are both in our 50s. Six months ago, I found him with nail polish on his toes. When I asked him about it, he explained that it started in his 20s when a girlfriend painted his toes, and he liked it. He has been painting his toes ever since. He said he doesn’t wear polish all the time, but he does it for himself and he likes how it looks. I asked if he was a cross-dresser, and he assured me he isn’t.

I’m writing for your opinion. I can’t turn to my friends because I don’t want this to become small-town gossip. — Painted in New Jersey Dear Painted: Frankly, I’m surprised it has taken you 10 years to notice this. Because your husband enjoys painting his toenails, look the other way and don’t obsess about it. We all have quirks, and what he’s doing is harmless.

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