Woman bemoans ‘clueless’ men

Dear Abby: Could you explain to me why, as a species, men are so blind and stupid? There are millions of smart, funny, sweet, attractive — even sexy — eligible women to whom men do not give a second glance, or even acknowledge that these women exist. Then, these clueless guys moan about how they can’t find a good woman, can’t find love, etc., when there are scores of potentially awesome partners right under their noses! Why don’t men ever grow up? Even men in their 40s, 50s and 60s suffer from the same stupidity as teenage boys. Why?! — Eligible Lady In Alabama Dear Eligible: Individuals of both sexes can be addicted to a “type” they fantasize about, chase the illusion of eternal youth by pursuing unsuitable partners and/or be commitment-phobic.

That said, you might have better luck with men if you didn’t stereotype them, because some of them are encountering the same problems you are.

Dear Abby: Three years ago, I lost my wife of 32 years. Every month, on the anniversary of her death, I buy flowers for my house to honor her.

I am now engaged to a wonderful woman. She has always shown respect for the way I show my grief for the wife I lost. My question is, should I stop buying flowers to honor my first wife once my fiancee are married and move into a house of our own? I want her to know that she holds the No. 1 place in my heart. — Time To Move On In Pennsylvania Dear TTMO: Although the sentiment behind those flowers is beautiful, I do not think it would be appropriate for you to bring flowers for your late wife into the home you will share with your next one. If you feel the need to honor your first wife, place flowers on her grave on her birthday.

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