Shunned mom might rewrite will

Dear Abby: I divorced my husband after our children were raised. Over the years, I have tried to have a relationship with all of my children and their families. When I asked one of them for a three-day weekend with her children, she texted me saying they all had a lot going on. Then she added, “Maybe next year.” I may not be here next year! I have decided to change my will. If I’m not worth my children’s time, they don’t deserve my money. Your thoughts? — Worthless Up North Dear Worthless: Is it possible your daughter and children actually are busy? From your reaction, you appear to have a troubled relationship with her. Rather than disinherit her, try to find out what motivated her to text what she did so fences can be mended. If that’s not possible, then you have every right to reallocate your assets as you wish.

Dear Abby: Prior to meeting me, my husband was in a long-term relationship with a woman, “Karen,” who was also a close friend of his sisters. Their relationship and the friendships ended due to Karen’s behavior. Years passed, and then my husband met me. Now, 10 years later, the sisters have decided to befriend Karen again, and she is invited to all family gatherings. It is uncomfortable for my husband and me, as we feel we don’t have the option to skip these events. I have tried to quietly object, but I’m being painted as “immature.” Please help. — Uncomfortable in Illinois Dear Uncomfortable: If you and your husband prefer not to socialize regularly with Karen, you don’t have to. However, your discomfort with her does not entitle you to insist your sisters-in-law exclude her. Attend the parties you must, make the best of them, and send your regrets for the rest. Contact Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.