Wife longs for simple snuggling
I recently got married to a wonderful man who is 19 years younger than I am. He’s the love of my life. The problem is, he sleeps totally on one side of the bed and isn’t affectionate at night except when we are making love. Then he is amazing — affectionate, sensitive, and very attentive and kind.
He says his mother was very cold toward him, and he was reared by his grandparents, who loved him, but were not “touchy-feely.” He treats me like a queen, Abby. Should I just forget about it and be content sleeping un-hugged and un-held all night? — On My Side in Maryland
No, you should talk to your husband and explain what your needs are. Although the sex is wonderful, many people — of both sexes, by the way — need to feel the warmth of human contact. Because he treats you like a queen, tell him you need more, and perhaps he will make more of an effort on HOROSCOPE
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I have developed romantic feelings toward a close friend. They are affecting my ability to be a good friend to her. If I say something, I risk losing someone I am very close to, but if I don’t, I may continue to push her away. I have been stuck in limbo for a while. What would you do? — A Friend in Love
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