Man leaves his girlfriend alone

Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I just moved in together. We have been a couple for seven years. Until now, we have lived with our parents.

I knew moving in would be a struggle for him because he’s very close to his four siblings. Now that we’ve moved in, he calls and video chats with them every day, visits twice a week or more and has sleepovers. He also leaves work early to take his siblings on field trips or attend their sports events.

He asked me to give him time to adjust, but it has already been a month. Please help! — Confounded In California

Dear Confounded: You and your boyfriend have been living together a grand total of one month. This is a period of adjustment for BOTH of you.

My advice, and I hope you will heed it, is to devote time to your own interests and activities so you won’t be so dependent on him.

Dear Abby: I am single, 33, and have two kids. I am not lonely, but I find myself wanting a relationship.

When I tried dating websites, I got a mixed bag of colorful characters.

We start out by messaging on the site, then we text each other. The problem I am having is that these men don’t ask “get to know you questions” or keep up a conversation at all. If I don’t text first or keep the conversation going, there’s no communication at all.

Have any sage advice for me? Looking In Nebraska

Dear Looking: You say you are messaging back and forth. After a few days of conversation, have you suggested getting together for a coffee date? It might provide an opportunity to find out more about these men.

Because there is so much distraction and so much choice in online dating, perhaps you should consider meeting men the old-fashioned way — through friends, relatives or social groups. — 15 16 17

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