Racy texts cause wife concern

Dear Abby: My husband, “Ralph,” and I have been married for 30 years. He recently started receiving sexually oriented texts from a male co-worker I’ll call Mike. What Ralph once read aloud to me saying, “He’s such a goof. Listen to this!” has now become covert reading for him.

Ralph and I have no secrets. Our phones are accessible to each other, so sometimes if his phone is lying around, I’ll see things such as “Sitting on the deck with just a towel on the bits and pieces. Nice breeze!” with heart eye emojis. They are later deleted.

I have asked Ralph point-blank if he has feelings for Mike, which he denies. But he won’t ask him to stop, either. Ralph knows this worries me and has me questioning our relationship. I’m tempted to contact Mike myself, but I’m not sure if that’s the best way to proceed. Thoughts?

Dear Baffled: Your husband may not have feelings for this co-worker, but his co-worker appears to have some for him. Either way, Mike’s behavior is unusual. While I don’t think you should contact him, this is something you should revisit with your husband because you find it threatening.

Dear Abby: I recently went to the movies with a couple of friends. At the concession stand, I bought popcorn. They did not. However, as we sat down, they eyed my popcorn as I was munching. I didn’t offer them any. I figured they could have bought their own if they wanted some. Should I have? It’s been bothering me ever since. Was I selfish?

Dear Muncher: The polite thing to do would have been to offer them some of your popcorn. As to whether not doing so was selfish, the answer is: “Mmmmhmmmm.” (I’d say it more clearly, but my mouth is full.) 16 17 18 19 20 22 23 24 26 30 33 34

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