How to help someone you know with depression

We all likely know someone suffering from depression.

The National Institute of Mental Health estimated 16.2 million adults in the United States had at least one major depressive episode in 2016.

There are signs to look for, and ways to help. But first, let’s dispel some of the myths.

Myths surrounding depression

MYTH:

FACT: Wealth doesn’t guarantee happiness, and isn’t an insulator from depression.

Fashion designer Kate Spade and celebrity chef Anthony Bourdain both died by suicide within the same week.

“Depression is a non-prejudicial disease,” said Dr. Michael Weinberg, senior manager of behavioral health at Banner Thunderbird Medical Center. “It is not impressed with your money.”

MYTH: Only weak people Wealthy people aren’t get depressed. depressed.

FACT: Depression isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s not a choice that can be overcome by thinking positively.

“Another myth is that depression is for people who are weak, who don’t have the will power to get themselves out of it,” said Dr. Carol Olson, chair of psychiatry at Maricopa Integrated Health System.

How you can help

Weinberg said when talking to someone about depression, be assertive and don’t avoid the subject.

“Don’t think you can coach them into thinking better,” he said.

He said it is important to let them know they are being heard, but to not tell them their feelings don’t matter.

Olson said it is important to take preventive measures if you are concerned that someone in your household is depressed.

“You want to remove things from the household that they might easily use to commit suicide,” Olson said. “The prime one being a firearm, either removing it from the household or making sure it is locked up.”

Also, Olson suggested removing as much medication as possible.

About 50-70 percent of people who attempt suicide tell someone about it first, according to the American Foundation of Suicide Prevention.

Olson said it is OK to ask someone if they are having thoughts about suicide, but to be thoughtful about the approach.

“I think it is helpful to lead up to that more slowly,” she said.

If someone admits to such thoughts, it is important to not leave them alone, according to Olson.

Helping someone after a loss

Olson said it is common for people to feel guilty after losing a loved one.

“I think it is important first to reach out and acknowledge we all try to do the best that we can,” Olson said. “It is impossible to read the mind of another person.”

Weinberg said people should not be afraid to offer to spend time with someone who is grieving.

Olson said counseling can be helpful anyone. Also, there are support to groups in the Valley that can help friends and family of someone who has died from suicide.

Resources available

If you or a loved one needs help, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or Mercy Care at 602-222-9444.

Olson said people can encourage loved ones to visit their primary care doctor. The doctor can determine if the person is experiencing systems associated with a medical problem.

“Primary doctors can do a full evaluation physically, to make sure there is no physical cause for this person’s mood problem,” she said. “Thyroid condition, for example, can cause depression and some other conditions can as well.”

Banner Thunderbird Medical Center’s Department of Behavioral Health offers an intensive outpatient program for adults and teens. People can request a free assessment at 602-254-4357.

La Fontera Arizona/EMPACT - Suicide Prevention Center offers services to children, adults and families across the Valley.