Couple considers ‘swinging’ life

Dear Abby: My wife and I have been married for years. We married young, and I’m the only man she has been with. Although we seem to have a good sex life, she’s now saying she wants more. She wants to experiment and is suggesting we try a “swinging” lifestyle – a threesome or foursome – swapping partners.

I think she wants to experience a stronger, more physically attractive man. I’m not against it. I fantasize about watching her with another man, and it could be exciting to make love with other women. However, my question to you and your readers is, does this lifestyle enhance a marriage or does it usually lead to severe marriage issues? Dear Considering It: Depending upon the people involved, the swinging lifestyle can either enhance or destroy a marriage. If the couple establishes firm ground rules and adheres to them, it won’t hurt the marriage.

Dear Abby: I have been married forever to a very demanding and controlling man. We are older now, so, without consulting me, he bought cemetery plots for us. The problem is, I prefer to be cremated.

How can I make sure my wishes will be respected?

Dear G.O.M.W.: If your husband dies first, your problem will be solved because your wishes will prevail.

Talk with an attorney who specializes in estate planning about putting language in your will that specifies that if you AREN’T cremated and scattered as you wish to be, the person responsible will receive no more than $1.