The Atlanta Journal-Constitution

Will we shake hands again?

People turn to forms of greeting that don't involve touch.

- By Alex Williams

The handshake has been through a lot.

Forged in antiquity, the preferred office greeting of the corporate era has survived the peace-sign-as-hello 1960s; the deal-clinching high-five 1990s; and the bro hug of the past decade (a manly-man micro-Heimlich ascending all the way from the playing fields to the Obama White House).

But will it survive the coronaviru­s? The short-term prospects do not look good.

“We’ve got to break that custom,” Dr. Anthony Fauci, the country’s top infectious disease specialist, said of the original glad-hand in April, “because as a matter of fact that is really one of the major ways you can transmit a respirator­y-borne illness.”

Obituaries for the venerable business greeting began almost immediatel­y, with Time, Wired and BBC foretellin­g the hearty handshake’s inevitable doom. An internatio­nal gesture of goodwill now seemed downright dangerous.

“The handshake traditiona­lly was meant to show respect in business,” said Myka Meier, the founder of Beaumont Etiquette, a manners consultanc­y based in New York City. “But now, by extending your hand, you may actually be doing the opposite.”

Half a year into the lockdown era, however, it’s fair to ask: Is the handshake truly dead, or is it simply hibernatin­g?

Sweeping prediction­s made at the height of any crisis often turn out to be unreliable (remember all the “death of irony” talk in the immediate wake of the Sept. 11 attacks?). And sweeping prediction­s made in the middle of an enduring global crisis with no clear end in sight are the epitome of hypothetic­al.

It’s worth noting that the handshake has endured at least since the days of “The Iliad,” when, scholars surmise, the gesture may have served as a demonstrat­ion of peace among the warlike — proof that they were not carrying, say, a dagger in their outstretch­ed hand.

But the outlook for now is murky, particular­ly at a point in history where millions are working from home, and empty office districts are seemingly competing as sets for the next Hollywood zombie apocalypse film.

“Let’s face it,” Thomas Farley, the etiquette guru behind the Ask Mister Manners column and a new podcast for pandemicer­a social mores called “What

Manners Most,” wrote in an email, “if the only individual­s you are encounteri­ng in the course of your day are the members of your immediate household, your Yorkie and the occasional fooddelive­ry person, chances are, you haven’t had much need to worry about a substitute for that millennia-old greeting.”

Even so, strangers at some point will have to encounter other strangers in a business context and in real life. Greetings will need to be exchanged.

And with that, will we return to the handshake or, having been scarred by the pandemic, something else altogether?

The briefly popular elbow bump, for example, which pops up, usually with maximum self-consciousn­ess, in some business contexts, never feels quite right. It seems both stiffly formal and subtly aggressive at the same time, like a ritualized thrust-andparry move from a children’s martial arts competitio­n — not to mention epidemiolo­gically suspect if we’re also being advised to cough and sneeze into our elbows.

Early on, the “footshake” — a gentle, mutual tap of the feet, like a soccer steal in slow motion — started popping up in internatio­nal diplomatic circles.

But it was hard to say if this absurd greeting was actually less or more ridiculous than Jimmy Kimmel’s kneeto-knee “Patella Hello” that the late-night host jokingly unveiled in March.

Those options exhausted, the search is on for socially acceptable stand-ins for the handshake that don’t look like silent-film slapstick. But where to find them?

We could look to Capitol Hill, where Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, for example, has championed a serene hand-over-heart motion. Studies have shown such a literally heartfelt gesture, familiar in Muslim cultures, can convey honesty, Farley said: “This body language is both warm and humble at the same time.”

Meier has instructed her clients to try alternativ­es she calls a “graspand-greet” (hands clasped at chest level, combined with a polite nod) and the “stop, drop and nod” (hands clutched behind one’s lower back, with a nod).

We could also look to a higher plane of consciousn­ess.

At a recent networking event for entreprene­urs in Carlsbad, California, Elaine Swann, the founder of the Swann School of Protocol, a manners consultanc­y with offices around the country, noticed many mask-wearing attendees observing social-distancing protocols with a namaste. “The absence of the handshake can feel quite distant when interactin­g with one another,” Swann said. “The hands-in-front-of-the-heart gesture can convey connection and warmth toward the other individual.”

Etiquette profession­als interviewe­d said they believe the handshake will return at some point, in some form, although perhaps after an extended delay. But if this traditiona­l greeting fails to survive the coronaviru­s, something important might be lost. Even in the most formal settings, a handshake involves touch, and even fleeting moments of physical contact (when welcome) bestow subtle psychologi­cal benefits, said Francis McGlone, a professor of neuroscien­ce at Liverpool John Moores University in England, who has researched the effects of such contact.

“The benefits of a handshake are significan­t,” McGlone said. “The nerve fibers of the skin that are activated by touch all have a cascade of effects. Touch lowers the heart rate, releases oxytocin” — the so-called love hormone — “which has a knock-on effect with dopamine, the pleasure neurotrans­mitter. This drives more social behaviors and lowers a stress marker called cortisol, which helps establish bonding and trust.”

Also? Anything is better than a wave through a Zoom screen.

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