HOROSCOPES BY HOLIDAY:

ARIES (March 21-April 19). The more you think something the more power you give it. You can’t change them, but you can change you, which could be enough to create just the result you were hoping for.

TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The person talking isn’t always communicating. The person hearing isn’t always listening. Regardless, right now you’re so tuned in to people’s motivations and intentions, you’ll come to a deeper understanding of your situation.

GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Social awareness will be a forte of yours. You’ll be careful to take the temperature of the rooms you enter, and you’ll change the climate just by being there, too.

CANCER (June 22-July 22). As any dinosaur would attest, adaptability is the talent of survivors. It doesn’t matter how big and powerful you are; it’s the ones who respond well to change who defy extinction.

LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The thing that stressed you out a little while back now holds a different place in your mind. You’ve finally made it to the day when you chalk it all up to a learning experience, or maybe even a funny story.

VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). When you compete with others, you give away the advantages that have held you in good stead. Back off instead. Think it over. What would you do if you knew you were in a league of your own?

LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Creative, playful people will make your life better. One idea leads to another and suddenly you’re caught into the swirl. Some people have a talent for turning ordinariness into adventure.

SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). When the passenger inside your head is in a dark mood, spouting unhelpful opinions, get up and change seats. You’ll be surprised at how one move can interrupt the whole pattern, allowing you a brighter outlook and experience.

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Here comes the kind of yearning that doesn’t happen every day. It’s actually quite rare and, for all its discomfort, could be considered a gift. Desire is an ache but it’s so much better than the numbness of wanting nothing.

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). There’s an art to managing your emotions. You’re learning to use the power of your feelings as motivation instead of seeing them as burdens you must work around on your way to success.

AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). When it comes to relationships, one good one is better than a million flimsy ones. You’ll overlook minutiae. Pettiness helps no one. You know solid relationships are cultivated over time and you’re in it for the long game.

PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). In the classroom of life, you teach people how to treat you. Lectures in this forum are extremely unpopular. Rather, it’s usually a modeling situation. You care for yourself, and others pick up the cues.

IF TODAY IS YOUR BIRTHDAY: You’re a deep person who feels things acutely and thinks further into life than most. You’ll meet your resonant equals and create a kind of poetry in the way you relate to one another. Debts will be paid, wrongs righted. Cancer and Scorpio adore you. Your lucky numbers are 9, 12, 11, 4 and 20.

Dear Abby: A friend of 40 years got mad at me after the last presidential election. I told her I didn’t want to talk politics, since we voted for different candidates. She then emailed me saying she thought we should take a break from our longdistance phone calls. We had been calling each other every two weeks to catch up.

Because it has now been more than a year, I emailed her, texted her and finally left a message on her answering machine asking if she was still mad. (I did this over a period of a week.) Then I got worried, since she’s in her 80s. I finally called her daughter and was told she was in the hospital recovering from heart surgery. When her daughter told her I was trying to get in touch, I received a text that read, “Not mad. Just don’t want to talk.”

I hate to give up on a long friendship. Her birthday is coming up. Should I send her a birthday card,