The Atlanta Journal-Constitution

This leap year baby is about to turn 23 — or is it 92?

Ethel Bonder is a live wire who loves life and still works.

- By Mary Ann Thomas

PITTSBURGH — If Ethel Jean “E.J.” Bergad Bonder hits the lottery, she plans to buy a Porsche for her granddaugh­ter because they will both turn 23 years old this year.

Yep, Ethel was born Feb. 29, 1932, and will technicall­y turn 23 Thursday. She’s a leap year baby.

The Gregorian calendar is based on 365.25 days — the amount of time it takes for the Earth to orbit the sun, according to NASA. Most years, the calendar is rounded off and every fourth year, an extra day is added in February for accuracy.

Ethel, who will turn 92 — counting every year since she was born — owns items from many eras. Her Lower Burrell living room is decorated with durable furniture, some from relatives, some from local stores, like a soft pink couch. “It was much darker but it has faded after 25 years,” she said. Her home reflects the nonagenari­an’s storied and proud life. But one of her legacies never sat right — being a leap year baby.

“I was angry because I didn’t have a birthday when I was a kid,” she said. “I told them I wasn’t born in March.”

There were always celebratio­ns, but she was the birthday girl without an actual birthday most years. Now her three children and nine grandchild­ren enjoy calculatin­g her age in leap years and celebratin­g when they are the same age.

Later this year, granddaugh­ter Zoe Spodek of O’Hara will turn 23 along with her leap-year grandmothe­r.

“My grandmothe­r’s personalit­y is very honest,” she said. “She’s like a historian. She knows it all.”

Bonder is a live wire who loves life. Take her tchotchkes. She doesn’t have one solar-powered dancing figurine. She has 15. Same with nutcracker­s. She has a living room coffee table with an army of them. She continues to work and hasn’t retired from real estate (she used to own her own realty company).

“It’s good for my mind,” she said.

An associate broker, Bonder still pulls floor duty several times a week for a real estate services company. Her gray hairdo still has some girlish curls that come alive when she moves her head to smile or joke.

Her secret? Family, friends and activities. Lots of them. She’s grateful for what she has and continuall­y cultivates it.

Her longest record for keeping a secret is two days, said one of her granddaugh­ters, Kayla Spodek of Wexford. She is the grandmothe­r who gamely indulges in an adult beverage. Bonder showed up one holiday with giant cans of Mike’s Hard Lemonade.

“She said, ‘Look what I got for everyone,’” Kayla said. “She drank it all herself.

“My grandmothe­r is always checking up on us grandkids. ‘Who are you dating? When are the great-grandkids coming?’”

Zoe Spodek grew up only 25 minutes from Bonder. “I still call her every other day,” she said. “She is funny. She has a schedule when people call her.”

Bonder was the oldest of five children and grew up in New Kensington and lived in other nearby communitie­s. She remembers the iceman delivering blocks of ice to homes before electric refrigerat­ors. He would shave off pieces to give kids a treat.

“We played on the street — nobody had a car,” she said.

After graduating from New Kensington High School in 1950, she worked as a lab assistant at the Gulf research lab in Harmar.

“There was no computer then, just an adding machine.”

Bonder met her future husband while on a vacation at the Miami Beach Nautilus Hotel. She was writing a postcard and asked a nice-looking man, Norman Bonder of the Bronx, for a pen. They went for ice cream.

“You weren’t afraid to get into a car back then,” she said.

When she returned home, her mom wouldn’t allow her to go to New York to see him. “He had to come to my house first.”

After a six-month courtship, he proposed to Bonder. “I told him then, ‘I can’t decide.’ He said ‘Hurry up. I don’t have time.’”

Bonder was 23 when she got married, “I was old,” she added. They lived in the West Bronx near Yankee Stadium.

Growing up, her husband’s neighbors included a young Tony Curtis, she said.

Bonder got a job in Manhattan’s garment district in the office of a wholesale manufactur­er.

“Ethel Merman and Duke Snider of the Brooklyn Dodgers came in for free shirts. Ethel had such a loud mouth. You could hear her talking all over the office everywhere.”

After three years together in the Bronx, her husband lost his job. Her family helped them settle in Lower Burrell, near Pittsburgh.

“It was like heaven coming back here ... not in an apartment with cockroache­s. My husband loved it here. He never looked back.”

Her life in Lower Burrell was idyllic. Kara Spodek, 57, remembers those times and recognizes her mother’s recipe for lifelong relationsh­ips.

“Be nice to people. Never criticize,” she said. “My mom was always polite and she brings out the laughter in people.”

The family is planning multiple celebratio­ns this year for their leap year baby.

No one worries she’ll get tired. After all, she’s only 23.

 ?? MARY ANN THOMAS/PITTSBURGH POST-GAZETTE/TNS ?? Ethel Bonder sits as her granddaugh­ter, Zoe Spodek (left), and her daughter, Kara Spodek, stand behind her. Bonder was born Feb. 29, 1932, and will technicall­y turn 23 Thursday. “I was angry because I didn’t have a birthday when I was a kid,” she said. “I told them I wasn’t born in March.”
MARY ANN THOMAS/PITTSBURGH POST-GAZETTE/TNS Ethel Bonder sits as her granddaugh­ter, Zoe Spodek (left), and her daughter, Kara Spodek, stand behind her. Bonder was born Feb. 29, 1932, and will technicall­y turn 23 Thursday. “I was angry because I didn’t have a birthday when I was a kid,” she said. “I told them I wasn’t born in March.”

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