Wife should leave spouse because of his abusiveness

long is for my children. Is there hope that he might change?

Ripping a spouse’s clothing off and holding her (or him) down is not foreplay; it is spousal rape and a form of domestic abuse. It is a crime in all 50 states.

Because your husband may become violent if you tell him the marriage is over, contact the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (rainn.org) and let the organization’s staff help you form a safe escape plan. He is unlikely to change.

My wife is in her 30s. She’s a beautiful woman and a wonderful mother to our three children. We’ve been married 10 years. She has many qualities, but also one habit that concerns me: her slouchy posture. Her posture has worsened dramatically since we married.

We have spent thousands of dollars on personal trainers, massage and chiropractic. She’s willing to see professional medical practitioners, but she does not accept any responsibility for slouching. I can’t bring it up without her becoming defensive. It is affecting our marriage.

If posture is the only thing about her that causes you concern, you are lucky. I’ve been told far worse.

Correcting one’s posture is difficult. Slouching is a defensive posture, and if she slouches even more when you raise the subject, it might have something to do with the way you’re doing it.