Overt disdain for men harmful to relationship

the same as your recent advice to the letter-writer with the racist fiance, that it’s a dealbreaker?

No, and yes. There is a distinction to be made here, to be fair. The column you refer to was about someone on the power side expressing hatred for those traditionally oppressed, whereas the power flows in the other direction with your girlfriend. She is in the mistreated demographic and railing against the group that abuses its power. On that narrow basis alone, your girlfriend’s outrage is less of an outrage than the racist fiance’s.

But it’s a distinction without a difference. Her outrage is an outrage — perhaps consequentially so if your girlfriend is in a line of work that has her supervising, advising, teaching, coaching, defending, admitting, hiring, firing, serving, caring for, feeding, protecting or treating boys or men.

Your girlfriend has hatred in her heart, and she has turned it upon just under half of the world. Worse, she sees nothing wrong with this. Worse still, she sees something wrong with people who see something wrong with this. Worst of all, she has no respect for your judgment or worlview. Or you for hers.

These widely reported incidents of sexual harassment are crimes against the humanity of the individual women involved and against the humanity of women in general. Your girlfriend’s fury likewise erases the humanity of men by denying even the possibility of individual culpability and innocence.

I have no hesitation in advising you to walk away from someon who harbors such profound contempt. Contempt for you or for men, take your pick. It’s time for her to seek treatment for an anger so profound it’s distorting her judgment.