Requests for personal information should be politely declined

Jeanne Phillips

Dear Abby: Is there a polite way to refuse giving my personal information to store clerks? It seems like every time I shop, the clerks demand email, phone number, even birthdate, and they get testy when I say I just want to complete my purchase. I find it so intrusive that I’m tempted to leave the items on the counter and walk out.

On a similar note, how can I politely tell my doctor or dentist that I prefer not to be treated by anyone who has cold symptoms? Recently, I was at the dentist and the hygienist had a cold. I didn’t want to be a complainer, so I didn’t say anything because I couldn’t find the right words. Frankly, I was floored that she hadn’t been sent home. Please advise.

Dear Barbara: You are under no obligation to give your private information when making a purchase because, too often, the information winds up on a mailing list that can be sold, and often is. The polite way to refuse is to simply say, “I would prefer not to share that information.”

I found your question regarding dental hygienists to be of interest because in the dental office I use, the hygienist wears gloves and sometimes a face guard to safeguard against catching something from her patients. Because you are concerned about catching colds, tell your dentist you would prefer to reschedule your appointment if you will be in close contact with anyone in the office who is sick — and repeat that to his/ her receptionist.

Dear Abby: At an amusement park recently, I was unable to win the woman I’m dating the oversized stuffed giraffe she desired. Since then, her behavior has been peculiar. She emails me pictures of giraffes, and she got a giraffe tattoo that extends from her wrist to her shoulder.

My failure has left my masculinity sagging. Is there anything I can do to salvage my relationship? Or should I search for someone else?

Dear Prizeless: If you take your girlfriend to visit a real, live giraffe at a zoo, it may raise your standing.

I’m often asked whether I can spot a fake letter. So I’m wishing you a happy April Fools’ Day! Your tale of woe is about as tall as the giraffe you didn’t win for your beloved.