Retired husband isolating himself from his peers

I can imagine few pastimes less appetizing than socializing with someone who “imparts knowledge” by talking down to them. They might find him more appealing if he asked them questions and listened to what they had to say.

Consider talking to him about your concern that he is socially isolating himself from contemporaries.

Dear Abby: My husband and I are proud parents of two adult daughters who graduated from a local university. Our rule was if they were to complete their education locally, they had to live at home.

Now, our goddaughter “Justine” is in community college and planning to transfer to a four-year college next semester. I was told that she’s been trying to convince her boyfriend to get a place together. Justine’s parents would continue to fund her education as best they can, I think.

We have been contributing financially toward our goddaughter’s education. My husband and I feel that it’s a waste of money just so they can “play house.” I’m afraid they will run into money issues and use the money we give her to live on instead of for school. I don’t think I should do any different for her than I did for my own children.

Should this be my concern or should I let it go?

Dear Godmother: It’s time for an honest conversation with your goddaughter, and it wouldn’t be a bad idea if you included her parents. Explain that you would be uncomfortable subsidizing her if she lives with her boyfriend because it’s not how you raised your children. You have already contributed generously to her education.