Private detective can ‘out’ cruel, cheating husband

Dear Unhappy: Your relationship with this man is clearly loveless. Look within and ask yourself, “Is this really the way I want to spend the rest of my life?” When the chips are down and you need Oscar’s help, he not only turns his back but also calls you a b---for asking.

Because you know he’s cheating, hire a private detective for a month and find out who with. Then talk to a lawyer about what your rights are as a wronged wife.

Dear Abby: My 35-year-old stepson has moved back into my home so many times I have lost count. I ask only that he keep his bedroom clean, himself clean, help around the house and look for work. He got married last January and was recently escorted to my home by the local police. His new wife had taken out a restraining order against him.

I was unemployed for two years, but recently found a new job. My wife had to assume the role of provider, though, which is why I hate talking to her about this issue with her son.

I have run out of polite ways to tell him to get out and am feeling very used. —

Dear Feeling Used: Your feelings are accurate. And as much as you might hate it, talk to your wife about what her son is doing. At 35, he should have long been able to find lodgings other than under your roof.

By allowing her son to live (rent-free, I assume) under the conditions you have described, she’s enabling it to continue. Unless changes are made, it could ruin your marriage.

A first step should be to set a date by which her adult son should move out.