Gay couple should seek therapy over relationship with co-worker

he was worried because she’s “just a kid.” But she’s a kid. Tina is 25 years old and capable of calling a taxi or asking for a ride.

Am I overreacting, or should I be worried I’m about to lose my man?

Dear Jealous: Grady does seem fixated on Tina. I have heard of straight men repressing their homosexual feelings until they are middle-aged, so I suppose it’s possible for a gay man to discover that he’s bisexual. That said, I’m not sure you are overreacting. Whether Tina is a threat to your relationship only he can answer.

If Grady is willing to go with you, relationship counseling should be available at your nearest gay and lesbian community center. I suggest this because the two of you may need an unbiased referee to prevent an honest conversation about your feelings from degenerating into an argument.

Dear Abby: My in-laws (whom I love) stay with us twice a year, and we entertain them while they’re here. Whenever they are in town, my husband’s ex-wife insists on meeting them for lunch.

It has been 10 years since my husband and his ex were divorced. They have adult children. Her inclusion hurts my feelings, and I suspect my in-laws are just afraid of hurting the ex’s feelings. She is remarried, too. How would you feel?

Dear Tired: I would feel less threatened than you apparently do, and this is how I would handle it: I’d keep the visit positive, and realize the ex is ancient history. Your in-laws are adults. If they didn’t want to see her, they would find a way to tell her that they couldn’t fit her in. If necessary, I would also remind myself that their having lunch with her has nothing to do with the relationship they have with me, which is what I recommend you do.